Yes, you can rebuild your faith or scrap it to build a better one. This often involves throwing away everything that has been harmful while also retaining everything that has been helpful and healing. This can be a long journey, but I do believe we are made for resilience and recovery.
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Can I rebuild my faith after being hurt by religion?
I grew up in a tradition that taught me my queerness was incompatible with God's love. I've spent years untangling that, and parts of me still long to believe. But I don't know what that could even look like anymore. Is it really possible to rebuild a faith after religion itself has been used as a weapon against you?
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I can't answer that for you. I have seen many people do just this, but it has to be a personal choice. If you need help making those steps, I (and many others in this group) would be happy to walk the journey with you.
Religion and faith are two different things. One has nothing to do with the other. Religion is a cultural construct developed and invented by people. Consider that the hurt comes from people and not religion. I invite you to consider not to be concerned about rebuilding your faith. Your faith foundation will come as you heal and deconstruct.
It is certainly possible. But for some it is not a reality due to hurt, deconstruction, or realization they are no longer a person of faith. Others may go through seasons and that is okay. Ultimately, faith is a very personal thing. It's about your relationship with whatever deity or deities you believe. If you are looking to rebuild your faith, I would suggest finding the right affirming faith community to assist you on this journey.